What is "perfect"?

 Yes, that's me- Batman. 

Yes, that's me- Batman. 

I have mentioned before about loving fashion from a young age. Well, some may say I was ahead of the trends on this one. It was almost Halloween, I was four years old, and this was the year I finally got to pick out what I wanted to wear. I was talking to my mom about what I was going to dress up as, and the only thing I wanted be was Batman. No lie. Apparently, there was no hesitation in my voice or turning back. I had committed to the black cape and tights. My sweet mother took me to get my batman costume, and y’all, I wore that thing with so much pride.

I wanted to share this story for one, because it is hilarious, I mean look at that picture.  But also, because at that age I had no concern for what others would think of me. The only thing my four year-old mind took into consideration was what I wanted to look like, and I owned it. It is not so easy now, is it? Why is that? Why do we struggle so much with wearing what we feel good in? My answer is two-fold: comparison and self-doubt

 "Once you own who you are and what you like- that's when you have achieved your "perfect"!"

"Once you own who you are and what you like- that's when you have achieved your "perfect"!"

Comparison is the thief of joy
— Theodore Roosevelt

As women, there is this constant push on us to be “perfect”. This one word runs through our minds all the time. We are constantly chasing after this elusive idea without ever catching it. I don’t know about you, but that has never happened for me. The closest to “perfect” I have gotten, has been when I have been confident in me. Confident in what I like and what I don’t - and owning it. I know some women are afraid of being confident because they are concerned about people thinking they are concieted. Women, if anyone wants to bring you down for loving what you love or wearing what you wear, there are other issues in the air, and it probably has nothing to do with you.

Confidence is at the heart of KWC. We want you to feel 100% yourself and proud of it. We are not here to dictate how trendy you are or judge what is in your closet. We want you to stop chasing “perfect” and start owning you. And we are here to help you every step of the way. 


 


I used to not be able to put these feelings to words until I met, Heather Stark, the founder of the non-profit Gracefully Strong. Gracefully Strong focuses on instilling the importance of confidence and growing positive self-esteem and body image in girls, starting at 9 years old. The non-profit is based as an 8 week after school program, focusing on confidence, doubts, body image, social media and more. If you are a mother to a daughter, I highly suggest reaching out to your school counselor to get more information on if Gracefully Strong is in your school. They will also be hosting a conference at McLean Middle School on April 21st with the theme #Myworth..priceless.

https://www.gracefullystrong.com/ 

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